IB: refcount race fixes

Fix race condition during destruction calls to avoid possibility of
accessing object after it has been freed.  Instead of waking up a wait
queue directly, which is susceptible to a race where the object is
freed between the reference count going to 0 and the wake_up(), use a
completion to wait in the function doing the freeing.

Signed-off-by: Sean Hefty <sean.hefty@intel.com>
Signed-off-by: Roland Dreier <rolandd@cisco.com>