probably imperfect, but better then nothing. New option, "-t tag"
allows you to specify an arbitrary tag to match against the stated_tag
of the nodes table. The stated invocation will only operate on nodes
that match the tag, ignoring all events for other nodes. If
unspecified, stated will operate on all nodes with a NULL tag. This is
setup up at the beginning of time (or during a reload) saving the
per-node tag in the $nodes hash. Each time an event arrives, check the
tag in the table, ignoring the event if not a match.

On signaled reload() must also be careful to throw away timeouts from
the queue (and be careful not to set up new timeouts for ignored
nodes).  So, this allows you to set the tag for a node in the DB, and
then HUP stated so that it reloads it tables. That node will now be
ignored by that stated.

Also made some changes to debug mode. In debug mode, don't worry about
the pidfile or the lockfile or checking for other runn...